It’s true, I’m a big meanie.
Now, most of the people who read my blog posts are close friends and family because, you know.. support? I can imagine some of you may be thinking that mean is not a word you’d use to describe me as a person and to that I say; Thanks babe.
Very recently I received a very nice kick up the arse from a family member. See, I had written out a list of all the things wrong with me, things I thought I needed to change about myself. Now when I say a kick up the arse I mean I was told to rip the list up into smithereens and never do such a silly thing again. It wasn’t until I was told that writing a literal list of all my flaws was completely pointless and quite frankly mean.
Why did I feel the need to do that to myself? How on earth did I think this was a good idea?
Even writing this now I’m laughing at how needless it all was. I was putting so much pressure on myself to be perfect, and for what? I was in a spiral of negative automatic thoughts and didn’t even realize it, I was having some trouble believing in myself and automatically my mind went straight to the negative (a lot easier than you’d think).
I can most definitely say that you can always count on family to tell it to you straight, especially when you’re being a shithead and for that I am very grateful.
So what I’m trying to say is: Yes it’s easy to go straight to the negative but if you take a step back, you can see that always going to the negative is not being a nice person to yourself. Now don’t get me wrong if you were an eternally positive Polly I’m sure it’d be quite insufferable for most people, just try to be as nice to yourself as you are to others. Stop being so hard on yourself and make sure to take some time to learn how to be good to yourself. Keep an eye out on you instead of always looking after other people first, if you get the hang of that, trust me it’ll make life 10 times more enjoyable.
Love Shauna xoxo
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